Why Being Single Isn’t Such a Bad Thing

In prior decades, it has been thought that being single was connected to being unhappy or unfulfilled. As we look around us in this present atmosphere in society, we find that singlehood is much more acceptable and is not as bad as once portrayed. For one reason or another, some individuals have chosen to remain in that state.

If your friends are getting married one after the other and you have chosen not to go down that path, there is no cause to feel like you are missing something. But it isn’t such a bad thing.

The stereotype of the single is no longer a term that depicts a spinster or miserly bachelor. Today’s single life has much more to offer and most people are embracing those offers of enjoying life this way.

God settles the solitary in a home; he leads out the prisoners to prosperity, but the rebellious dwell in a parched land. – Psalm 68:6, ESV

The best of being single

Understandably, people want to feel like they belong. They want to have a meaningful connection and healthy relationships. However, at the same time, they find that they are enjoying the benefits of singlehood. There are many blessings to be found when it comes to singlehood. It’s a matter of perspective and priorities.

Mental health benefits

Greater self-esteem 

Singlehood allows a person to work a relationship with themself that will promote healthy self-esteem.

Understanding life desires 

When you have space you can gain a clearer picture of what you may want for your future, including a relationship.

Learning self-accountability

Once a person gets an idea of what they see for their life, they can make choices and hold themselves accountable for those choices.

Physical health benefits

Exercise more

Single people are more likely to commit to a regular exercise program.

Less likely to gain weight (women)

Single women are less likely to gain weight and have overall better health.

Less likely heart disease (men)

Single men who have never been married tend to have a lower likelihood of heart disease.

Family and friends relationship benefits

Able to maintain non-romantic relationships

Single people who are content and enjoy singlehood can maintain non-romantic relationships. The focus is on creating a healthy lifestyle that allows for the cultivation of important relationships.

Staying connected to friends

Staying connected to friends is easier for single people since they can choose how to use the time they have.

More attentive as a friend

Single men and women tend to be more attentive to the needs of family and friends. They can make note of how other people need help because they have fewer needs to be met versus a family of four.

Keep family integrated in their life

Single people can connect more frequently with their siblings and parents.

Quality of life benefits

Less debt

Single people have more time for themselves which means they can choose to pay off debt or not have any at all.

Less materialistic

Single men and women are less likely to be caught up in material things such as cars, clothes, or trendy furniture and accessories.

Pursue work-related groups or clubs

Due to the choice of how to spend their time, single people tend to pursue goals that include groups and clubs of interest.

Solitude

A truly content single person finds the rewards in the solitude it offers.

Self-sufficiency

A single person can find a rhythm of being self-sufficient and maintain a positive thought process.

Finding additional support

Singlehood isn’t the negative lifestyle that it once was. The stereotypical life of singlehood no longer causes a person to feel as though they are missing out on something. It’s okay to enjoy singlehood and finding a faith-based rhythm in life.

If you’d like additional support or someone to walk with you in your journey of singleness, don’t hesitate to reach out to us at Mission Viejo Christian Counseling in California to schedule an appointment with a counselor.